Young Lady in the Darkness
As my parents and younger sister slept through nights that converged into one inky smear of darkness, I would ponder why I had chosen this; why did I enjoy being at home so much?
All my teenage years I’d been running from this inhuman stillness, this essence underneath the traffic light activities of society. By way of conscious decision, my past self had crafted a very social, very normal fishbowl. You would’ve found me at weekend parties with an alcoholic drink in my hand, laughing in company about something so foreign to this stillness I had now sunken into. I was once that normal girl – friendly and bold and agreeable.
In a materialistic, capitalist society, stillness is abnormal. We no longer live in simple times, but in a fast onslaught of stimulation. Most of us reside within entirely human fishbowls, oblivious and indifferent to other perspectives of living. We see the stillness inside the eyes of animals and the sluggish growth of trees as inferior to ourselves. And we bustle along, chasing after invisible desires of collective imagination – money, cyberspace, brands, social status, exam scores, fame etc.
Overtime my façade faltered, my composure weakened. I had become weary of this normal girl who pretended this underlying stillness didn’t exist. I had become weary of shoving myself into molds to feign belonging within this busy, busy world.
For once, at least once, I wanted to belong honestly somewhere. Even if only to understand more about myself. Even if only to know who I wanted to be for the rest of my life.
That somewhere happened to be my rural family home embraced by forest all around, distant from any main roads or neighbours.
I stayed home, night after night, because it was a place to be fundamental and true. I became like the garden and the house – quiet and peaceful and a little less human every day. The behaviours I’d once reflected bled out of my identity as if washed and faded on a clothesline season after season.
And it felt inspirational.
A regular person would look at my quiet lifestyle with patronization and confusion. To them, I’m just another abnormal person with strange values and an even stranger perspective, who should quit all this home nonsense and go get a real life.
But when regular people are far, far away from my peaceful fishbowl, the only consequential opinion is my own.